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Why You Lost Yourself in Your Last Relationship
Your opinions started sounding like theirs. Your weekends became whatever they wanted. That's not weakness, and it rarely happens on purpose.
Somewhere along the way, your opinions started sounding a lot like theirs. Your friends became their friends. Your weekend became whatever they wanted to do.
That's not weakness, and it rarely happens on purpose. It happens gradually enough that by the time you notice, you're not sure which parts were ever really yours.
It's easiest in relationships where keeping the peace felt safer than holding your ground, small accommodations, repeated enough times, until accommodating became the whole shape of you.
Getting it back isn't about finding a new hobby. It's slower: noticing, in small everyday choices, which answer is actually yours before you give it.
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